Just Three little Words...

"What would be harder for you, to tell someone you love them or that you do not love them back?"  - Anon


This is a tricky question, but I have been in this situation before. It's never usually an easy answer either. To tell someone you love them opens you up and makes you vulnerable. If you aren't sure of their intentions, they can use your feelings against you to get whatever they want out of a situation. To admit that feeling can be thrilling and exciting, or down right terrifying. I can honestly say, that when I experienced the feeling of true love, I was terrified to admit such a feeling. And to make it worse, I was in love with a friend of mine. I was terrified to possibly ruin the friendship, and so I kept it to my self. three years later I found the chance to admit these feelings (which I still have) and I jumped on this chance because I didn't want to live my life with any regrets. He could die tomorrow and I would never have gotten the chance to say how I felt. I am glad I did because I've never been happier.


I would honestly say that it would be harder for me to tell a person that I don't love them back. In high school, I fell in love easily. I was a hopeless romantic. A nerdy girl who read too many fantasy novels and watched too much sailor moon where a 14 year old school girl can find her soul mate at age 14 (this just doesn't seem to happen in real life as much as I wish it would). I was constantly told that I was "too good of a friend", but I really think that just meant "sorry you aren't hot enough to be seen as anything other than a friend." I had my heart handed to me in pieces several times because I was told I wasn't loved in return. At least, not in "that way". So i know what it feels like to take that leap of faith, open yourself up and then be rejected cold and hard right on the spot. That feeling sucks!


I am a people pleaser and hate to see people upset. For me, being empathetic, it would break my heart to have to tell someone that's admitted love for me that I just don't feel the same. I mean, here they are pouring their heart out to me and I get to be the one that makes them cry? It's a sucky situation any way you look at it really. But, as I always say: better a truth that draws a tear, than a lie that brings a smile.