10 important things

The 10 most important things in any relationship


1.) Love- love is important because if you don't have love it's not a relationship it's simply a platonic arrangement and probably for financial reasons. I don't think any one should be in a relationship because they are simply used to it. Love should always be present.


2.) Trust- If you don't have love and care for the person it's quite likely that you don't have trust for the person. No one wants to be in a relationship where you are second guessing everything the person is doing.

3.) Compassion- There will always come a time in any relationship where one person will be suffering. instead of shrugging that person off and going about your business you should be trying to help them with it and be able to sympathize with them. If you don't care about what they're going through and that they're suffering, the relationship won't last long in the first place.

4.) Equality- You should be partners in this. Everything should be 50/50 because you are a team. One person shouldn't try and protect the other, one person shouldn't stand behind the other for protection, but they should stand side by side as equals facing the problems that may face their life and relationship.

5.) Acceptance- There will always be little things that bother each other or that we don't agree with. if we got into a relationship with a person, we obviously saw something there we liked. Don't go in there and realize there are some things you decided you don't like and try to change them. If you try to change a person in a relationship, you are simply fashioning them into your own personalize pawn and then no one would want that.


6.) Respect- This should honestly be a given but I've seen relationships that don't have this at all. A girl will invite friends over when her partner is trying to sleep. The guy will go out to a football game with the buddies instead of spending his anniversary with his partner. You really need to be considerate and respect the person you're with. If you know something will bother them, discuss it with them.


7.) Similar Sex Drive/Interests- This is simple. If one person is a horn dog and the other could really do without most of the time this is going to create friction (and not the good kind you're looking for). Also, if one partner is into some more hardcore stuff where the other just likes their plain vanilla this can also cause problems. 


8.) Sense of Humor- i think a great sense of humor is definitely needed in a relationship. Especially one that understand the partners as well. I know I've been in relationships where i make jokes and my partner just gives me this look like i grew 2 more heads and it's very disheartening. 


9.) Respect for your Personal Time- as much as you love each other, sometimes you need to take a break and just have some time for yourselves. Maybe have a girl day at the mall, or wing night with the guys. Your hunny should be understanding of this. 


10.) Similar Goals for the Future- if you want to have children and your partner absolutely won't, then that causes problems. If you want one type of wedding and your partner wants another, that's an issue. You really need to see what their goals are for the future so that you can try and tell if you'll mesh well or not.