I think this question is completely loaded. I am under the belief that in order to have a decent relationship, both of these aspects are incredibly important. After all, no one likes to be in love with a person where they are second guessing every decision they make and searching for that persons ulterior motives. But then again, if you truly love that person, despite the lack of trust, would you second guess their every move? It really makes you think. Or would you rather be in a relationship where you trust the person 100% but you don't love them? Well, I do have to admit, it is very practical. Not having all the ups and downs of love being in the way. Emotions clouding your mind and decision. Would be very practical indeed.
Honestly, I would choose trust despite the fact, or maybe because of the fact that I'm a hopeless romantic. I have been in relationships where there is love but no trust. It's not a pleasant kind of love. It's like an addiction. Like being a smoker. Sure, you love that first drag on a cigarette. That cold feeling of menthol when you exhale. The way the butt sits in between your fingers, or how the smoke wisps through the air. But you're killing yourself. You know it's bad for you no matter how much you love smoking. It's not a healthy relationship at all honestly. All it brings is pain in the long run.
I would choose trust simply because I believe with trust automatically comes love. If you can trust a person, you must have some form of caring feelings for them, whether it be friend or a romantic interest. And love is something established over time, so who's to say you won't "grow to love" this person in a romantic way?
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