Words of wisdom

"You have some advice to give to someone.  Who gets it and what do you say?"


I do in fact have advice to give someone. I won't name names, but anyone who is aware of the situation, will know exactly who I am talking about.

First of all, after 3 years of being head over heels for you but being so terrified of commitment that I refused to say anything about it, I finally had you and shit wasn't nearly as good as I thought it was going to be. I was seriously expecting some sweep me off my feet fairy tale ending to this tragic love story we had going on, but boy, was i wrong. You claim that I was always the girl. The only one. Your dream girl, or whatever. Well ya know what? After 3 friggin years of chasing after me and finally catching me, you would think you'd treat me much better than you had.

And another thing. I always felt like I was making the effort here. I've inconvenienced myself multiple times to arrange plans to see you. I've outed myself money to try and help you out and just get a chance to see your face. And what have you done? Nothing. You don't ask to borrow the car. You don't ask anything, ever. Or even make the effort to talk to me, or come see me. Shows how much you really need me in your life when you can go days without speaking to me and then flip shit on me and threaten to leave me every week. Nice job there.

I am a rare catch. Yeah I have my problems and such, and you know what? You do too. You're not perfect and neither am I. You really need to get over yourself. I understand your self esteem is shit, but I've tried to help you with that. I understand you have trust issues, but over the 3 effin years you've known me, I've NEVER given you a reason not to trust me! And yet YOU ignore ME for days and then when you do decide to talk to me, it's accusing me of messing around with everyone while you were busy throwing a pity party for yourself, and crying because no one showed up.

You know what? If you aren't willing to try and save yourself and make your own life better, people aren't going to be there to be your crutch. That's not how life works. We have two legs of our own so we can stand on them. We shouldn't always have to depend and lean on others as if we are some geriatric cancer case! Seriously? That's emotionally sickening. You were draining the life around me and those around you, and yet you wonder why I'm so upset about this? Put yourself in my shoes for once!

I've done everything that I possibly could to help you out. I've loved you. I've supported you. I've done whatever I can to make you smile. But if you aren't willing to learn to fly, i can't teach you. You are in a very negative hole right now, and you need to dig yourself out of it. I've done what I can. And I can honestly say that if things continue down this path, I won't be in your life. Because while your sucking the joy from others and wondering why your life sucks so bad, I'll be making something of myself because instead of having a pity party, I'm going to plan my future and find joy in the little things in life.

What you really need to realize is life is short. Enjoy the little things in life. Love like you've never been hurt. Get over yourself and realize that life is too precious to waste on hate, regret and self loathing. If you continue on this path you will be sad, and alone for the rest of your life.