The 10 most important things in any relationship
1.) Love- love is important because if you don't have love it's not a relationship it's simply a platonic arrangement and probably for financial reasons. I don't think any one should be in a relationship because they are simply used to it. Love should always be present.
2.) Trust- If you don't have love and care for the person it's quite likely that you don't have trust for the person. No one wants to be in a relationship where you are second guessing everything the person is doing.
3.) Compassion- There will always come a time in any relationship where one person will be suffering. instead of shrugging that person off and going about your business you should be trying to help them with it and be able to sympathize with them. If you don't care about what they're going through and that they're suffering, the relationship won't last long in the first place.
4.) Equality- You should be partners in this. Everything should be 50/50 because you are a team. One person shouldn't try and protect the other, one person shouldn't stand behind the other for protection, but they should stand side by side as equals facing the problems that may face their life and relationship.
5.) Acceptance- There will always be little things that bother each other or that we don't agree with. if we got into a relationship with a person, we obviously saw something there we liked. Don't go in there and realize there are some things you decided you don't like and try to change them. If you try to change a person in a relationship, you are simply fashioning them into your own personalize pawn and then no one would want that.
6.) Respect- This should honestly be a given but I've seen relationships that don't have this at all. A girl will invite friends over when her partner is trying to sleep. The guy will go out to a football game with the buddies instead of spending his anniversary with his partner. You really need to be considerate and respect the person you're with. If you know something will bother them, discuss it with them.
7.) Similar Sex Drive/Interests- This is simple. If one person is a horn dog and the other could really do without most of the time this is going to create friction (and not the good kind you're looking for). Also, if one partner is into some more hardcore stuff where the other just likes their plain vanilla this can also cause problems.
8.) Sense of Humor- i think a great sense of humor is definitely needed in a relationship. Especially one that understand the partners as well. I know I've been in relationships where i make jokes and my partner just gives me this look like i grew 2 more heads and it's very disheartening.
9.) Respect for your Personal Time- as much as you love each other, sometimes you need to take a break and just have some time for yourselves. Maybe have a girl day at the mall, or wing night with the guys. Your hunny should be understanding of this.
10.) Similar Goals for the Future- if you want to have children and your partner absolutely won't, then that causes problems. If you want one type of wedding and your partner wants another, that's an issue. You really need to see what their goals are for the future so that you can try and tell if you'll mesh well or not.
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Friday, January 28, 2011
you say goodbye, i say hello
"What are you saying goodbye to?" - ANON
I have realized that there are certain situations in my life that I need to leave behind in order to have a better and brighter future. There are things (people and situations) that are plaguing me daily with their stresses and I really just don't need to carry those stressed around with me anymore. The people and situations did hold good times at one point in my life, but i really need to realize that leaving that situation in the past and not holding onto it doesn't mean i need to forget the good times. I need to learn to cherish the good times without letting the current situation drag me down or away from what I really need to be accomplishing in order to make my life better.
So i am saying goodbye to drama. Saying goodbye to people in my life who are holding me back from being who i want to be and from being where i want to be in my life. I'm saying goodbye to living my life for others and I'm going to start living my life for me.
I have realized that there are certain situations in my life that I need to leave behind in order to have a better and brighter future. There are things (people and situations) that are plaguing me daily with their stresses and I really just don't need to carry those stressed around with me anymore. The people and situations did hold good times at one point in my life, but i really need to realize that leaving that situation in the past and not holding onto it doesn't mean i need to forget the good times. I need to learn to cherish the good times without letting the current situation drag me down or away from what I really need to be accomplishing in order to make my life better.
So i am saying goodbye to drama. Saying goodbye to people in my life who are holding me back from being who i want to be and from being where i want to be in my life. I'm saying goodbye to living my life for others and I'm going to start living my life for me.
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Goals
"One thing I want to accomplish TODAY is..."
I would like to get some job prospects taken care of. Lately I've been job hunting since I recently lost my Christmas seasonal job, and times are tough now and so to remain jobless isn't helping very much. I would at least like to find a place that will call me in for an interview. That would be ideal.
Also, I've bee having health issues lately. My back as been acting up as well as getting some sort of cold/flu on top of it. I would like to hunt down my Nyquil today and at least start addressing that so that if i do get called back for an interview i'm not notting all over the interviewer.
I would like to get some job prospects taken care of. Lately I've been job hunting since I recently lost my Christmas seasonal job, and times are tough now and so to remain jobless isn't helping very much. I would at least like to find a place that will call me in for an interview. That would be ideal.
Also, I've bee having health issues lately. My back as been acting up as well as getting some sort of cold/flu on top of it. I would like to hunt down my Nyquil today and at least start addressing that so that if i do get called back for an interview i'm not notting all over the interviewer.
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Time is Ticking
"Do you ever think about growing old?" - ANON
Considering I just had a birthday recently I do think about growing old quite often. Also recently, I've attended a rally in Harrisburg about home health care which makes me realize that perhaps one day I might need this as well, so it's been on my mind a lot recently.
When i think about growing old, I think about what my life will be like then. Will I be an invalid unable to do anything? Or will I perhaps be one of those 85 year old women seen jogging around towns at 6am? I would love to believe I would be the latter, but considering my health problems that I'm currently facing at my age, it's not likely, since they will only get worse. it's not that I'm afraid to die, but I'm afraid to be alone and leave behind those that I love. If I get married, I would hope that I pass before my spouse does, because I would be very miserable if it were the other way around.
Also, I would hope that as I grow old, I would have a chance to share the things that I've learned and the stories throughout my life with the family that precedes me. I don't like to think that after all these years of taking care of myself, there might come a day where I won't be able to bathe myself, or dress myself or even wipe myself after using the bathroom. I feel that in growing old and facing such things, you lose a lot of your dignity.
Considering I just had a birthday recently I do think about growing old quite often. Also recently, I've attended a rally in Harrisburg about home health care which makes me realize that perhaps one day I might need this as well, so it's been on my mind a lot recently.
When i think about growing old, I think about what my life will be like then. Will I be an invalid unable to do anything? Or will I perhaps be one of those 85 year old women seen jogging around towns at 6am? I would love to believe I would be the latter, but considering my health problems that I'm currently facing at my age, it's not likely, since they will only get worse. it's not that I'm afraid to die, but I'm afraid to be alone and leave behind those that I love. If I get married, I would hope that I pass before my spouse does, because I would be very miserable if it were the other way around.
Also, I would hope that as I grow old, I would have a chance to share the things that I've learned and the stories throughout my life with the family that precedes me. I don't like to think that after all these years of taking care of myself, there might come a day where I won't be able to bathe myself, or dress myself or even wipe myself after using the bathroom. I feel that in growing old and facing such things, you lose a lot of your dignity.
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
One's Path in Life
"If money didn't matter, what job or career would you go for?" - ANON
I would want to be a psychiatrist. I've always been that person that people come to for advice and to get things off their chest. I've been told that I'm full of good ideas and coping mechanism and that I am a very good listener. I get joy from being able to help people through their problems because in my life, when i was going through a hard time, I really never had anyone that I could truly lean on and run to confide in.
I've been involved in the mental health system since i was thirteen years old and I know my way around it pretty well. I've studied things pretty in depth and have a basic knowledge for most things. I would greatly love to pursue a career in which every day I make my own little steps to make the world a d better place and to help those that are suffering not from the world around them, but from their own inner demons.
I would specifically like to work with adolescents and young adults because I feel I could greatly connect with them and be able to help them not only through medicinal knowledge but through my own empathic ways and my own life experiences. I know how hard it is to be a teenager and sent to some shrink that knows nothing about struggle except what they've read in text books, and then have them tell you what you should be doing to make your life better. It's a very hard feeling and I would like to make a positive personal impact on at least one persons life through this field.
I would want to be a psychiatrist. I've always been that person that people come to for advice and to get things off their chest. I've been told that I'm full of good ideas and coping mechanism and that I am a very good listener. I get joy from being able to help people through their problems because in my life, when i was going through a hard time, I really never had anyone that I could truly lean on and run to confide in.
I've been involved in the mental health system since i was thirteen years old and I know my way around it pretty well. I've studied things pretty in depth and have a basic knowledge for most things. I would greatly love to pursue a career in which every day I make my own little steps to make the world a d better place and to help those that are suffering not from the world around them, but from their own inner demons.
I would specifically like to work with adolescents and young adults because I feel I could greatly connect with them and be able to help them not only through medicinal knowledge but through my own empathic ways and my own life experiences. I know how hard it is to be a teenager and sent to some shrink that knows nothing about struggle except what they've read in text books, and then have them tell you what you should be doing to make your life better. It's a very hard feeling and I would like to make a positive personal impact on at least one persons life through this field.
Monday, January 24, 2011
Stop and Smell the Roses
"What five things in life give you joy?" - ANON
1.) The feeling of falling in love. I absolutely adore that feeling of being someone's world and getting to know each other day by day. The anticipation behind the first time you kiss, or hold hands, or go to bed together. The happiness you feel when they get one of your nerdy obscure jokes. When you find out their favorite band is your favorite band. the feeling you get when you realize you've found something truly good and you're now off the market and happy about it.
2.) Nature as a whole. Watching the seasons change, or a storm roll in on a warm summers night. Being lucky enough to catch an eclipse, whether Lunar or Solar. Watching how vibrant everything gets in the summer. Seeing those first sprouts of green shoot through the cold winter soil. Feeling a warm breeze on a winter's day to signify the coming of Springtime and nice weather.
3.) Being able to have a truly deep intellectual debate/conversation with someone to the point where your opinions and beliefs can be completely polar opposites and yet you respect each other completely and can enjoy each others company for hours on end just by simply chatting.
4.) Being able to make a child laugh. I know that sounds really corny but it's true. If a kid falls and scrapes his/her knee and they're crying, there's nothing better than the feeling you get when you dry their tears and see them smile and completely forget about their pain for that split second. Making a child smile/laugh is a great feeling because it usually doesn't take very much to do so because they enjoy the little things in life, and to see such simplistic joy is amazing.
5.) When I meet others that are just as loving, caring and accepting as myself. those who don't judge a person at all and don't look down their noses at people simply because of their sexual preference, skin color, religious beliefs, or perhaps even lifestyle choices. To meet people that are that accepting of the diversity in the world is truly amazing.
1.) The feeling of falling in love. I absolutely adore that feeling of being someone's world and getting to know each other day by day. The anticipation behind the first time you kiss, or hold hands, or go to bed together. The happiness you feel when they get one of your nerdy obscure jokes. When you find out their favorite band is your favorite band. the feeling you get when you realize you've found something truly good and you're now off the market and happy about it.
2.) Nature as a whole. Watching the seasons change, or a storm roll in on a warm summers night. Being lucky enough to catch an eclipse, whether Lunar or Solar. Watching how vibrant everything gets in the summer. Seeing those first sprouts of green shoot through the cold winter soil. Feeling a warm breeze on a winter's day to signify the coming of Springtime and nice weather.
3.) Being able to have a truly deep intellectual debate/conversation with someone to the point where your opinions and beliefs can be completely polar opposites and yet you respect each other completely and can enjoy each others company for hours on end just by simply chatting.
4.) Being able to make a child laugh. I know that sounds really corny but it's true. If a kid falls and scrapes his/her knee and they're crying, there's nothing better than the feeling you get when you dry their tears and see them smile and completely forget about their pain for that split second. Making a child smile/laugh is a great feeling because it usually doesn't take very much to do so because they enjoy the little things in life, and to see such simplistic joy is amazing.
5.) When I meet others that are just as loving, caring and accepting as myself. those who don't judge a person at all and don't look down their noses at people simply because of their sexual preference, skin color, religious beliefs, or perhaps even lifestyle choices. To meet people that are that accepting of the diversity in the world is truly amazing.
Sunday, January 23, 2011
My three closest friends..
My three closest friends..
It's hard for me to really get a grip on this, so I'm going to break it down into some categories.
By Distance
These are the friends that live the closest to me as far as actual distance:
1.) Nate
2.) Dina
3.) Mike
Known the Longest
These are the people that have seen me through the good and the bad in my life and have stuck by me always.
1.) Ashley
2.) McKenna
3.) Miles
Intellectually
This category is for those friends that I can have serious deep discussions with that truly stimulate my mind.
1.) Jedah
2.) Purple
3.) Damen
It's hard for me to really get a grip on this, so I'm going to break it down into some categories.
By Distance
These are the friends that live the closest to me as far as actual distance:
1.) Nate
2.) Dina
3.) Mike
Known the Longest
These are the people that have seen me through the good and the bad in my life and have stuck by me always.
1.) Ashley
2.) McKenna
3.) Miles
Intellectually
This category is for those friends that I can have serious deep discussions with that truly stimulate my mind.
1.) Jedah
2.) Purple
3.) Damen
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